A wise mentor of mine, Dr Nido Qubein of High Point University, once told me, “Joe if you don’t have a why … the how and the what don’t matter!” As I reflect back on the times in my life when I was driven towards a particular goal … be it writing my first book or starting my business, I was always crystal clear about the why behind my actions. I had a clear understanding of my purpose for that particular goal and was driven to achieve it.
A group of friends and I were having a discussion about happiness. Various people took turns chiming in on the topic. The conversation included a number of different comments. One person shared that they were rediscovering what made them happy, another about the fact that they seemed to focus more on what made them unhappy, and yet another listed specific things that made them happy.
So what’s all this talk I hear about Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence can be defined as a person’s ability to effectively negotiate social relationships and environments. Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new science and is becoming an important factor in determining a persons success in business and in life.
Growth … spiritual growth, personal growth, professional growth, relational growth, emotional growth, and on and on it goes! For those folks who focus on continuous growth and development … I have a question for you. Are you happy? Are you content with where you are at this exact moment in time? Or …
There have been hundreds of thousands of books written on the topic of personal growth. If you search “personal growth books” at Amazon.com you will get 74,039 titles. And while personal growth can be a very personal topic, it certainly doesn’t mean that personal growth is all about YOU! In fact, research shows that having a personal growth breakthrough typically comes when you surrender and let go of your ego.
It’s a new year and everyone is thinking about their new goals. Health clubs are jam-packed with the New Year’s resolutionists who are starting off another year with the expectation that this will be the year they drop the extra 15 lbs. they have been carrying around the last few years. It’s a fact … health club membership’s jump up 65% in the month of January each and every year.
Listen, Do you want to know a secret? Do you promise not to tell, whoa oh, oh? The Beatles. Recently I had an online chat with a rep at Ally Bank. Here’s the transcript: Welcome to Ally’s Live Chat. Thanks for joining us! A Customer Care Associate will be with you in a moment. You are number 1 in the queue. Thank you for waiting.
This is a story about a book, a book about what happens when authenticity and risk collide. I started writing my soon to be released book, I Could Love No One Until I Loved Me in early 2009. At the time, I was going through a pretty traumatic time in my life. It was the onset of what some called the ‘second depression’ and my business had been significantly impacted. In what felt like a matter of days, we went from having our best year ever to having one of our worst … overnight.
It takes courage to change the “things” in our lives that are not working. It takes even more courage to change ourselves. Why? Because in order to change ourselves we have to admit that “something” about us is not working … and that, in-and-of-itself requires courage. As human beings we have a propensity to look outside of ourselves and focus on trying to change those around us. We prefer believe that other people are the cause of our pain, aggravation, or undesirable results.
With what seems like a continual flow of untruthfulness from our politicians and the media, is it any wonder that we have become numb to truthfulness. “Reality” television shows retake scenes until they get it to a point that will captivate the audience … and in doing so they move further away from the truth and further away from reality. Whether it is by omission or the careful selection of one’s words … being untruthful is the same as lying!