“All you need is love, All you need is love, love…Love is all you need” ~ The Beatles
Well before you go and get all mushy and start conjuring up images of Juliet wondering where the heck Romeo is, or trying to remember when Harry actually did meet Sally, stop, take a deep breath and ask yourself…
“When was the last time you said to yourself or told someone that you genuinely love the person you have become?”
Okay, I know some of you want to run right now and skip to the next post, but stay with me, it’s really important, here’s why…
Negative Thoughts…The Numbers?
Statistics say that we have up to 70,000 thoughts each day. It is also said, that 80% of those thoughts are negative. I know, they said there would be no math, but that is approximately 56,000 negative thoughts each and every day!!
While some folks may balk at this number, let’s say were only half right and it is only 28,000 negative thoughts per day, it is still a ****-load, yes a boatload, exactly!
And since most of our thoughts are about ourselves, that is an awful lot of negative self-talk and/or negative thoughts directed inwardly towards ourselves.
I Hear Voices
I am sure you’ve heard some of this negative self-talk or maybe others have shared. They make up the Holy Trinity of You’re Too, You’ll Never, You’re Not.
And they sound like this:
- You’re Too: fat, tall, thin, old, young, bald, etc..
- You’ll never amount to anything, accomplish anything, have enough money, succeed, etc..
- You’re Not: smart, pretty, sensible, good-looking, pretty, successful, etc.
So why am I going on about this?
Here’s why…
Reaping, Sowing, & Growing
You’ve heard the phrases, “You reap what you sow, thoughts become things, your thoughts are like magnets, you attract what you think, etc.”
Well even old Albert Einstein believed this to be true, not philosophically, but scientifically!
He said, “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, it is physics!”
Now imagine the impact 28,000 or 56,000 negative daily thoughts will have on your reality? Your life? Your relationships?
It Starts With You
We’ve all heard the saying, “You cannot give away something you do not have.
If that’s true, in this context of loving yourself and others, then you cannot fully love someone else, until you love yourself.
Sure, you might experience attachment, cathexis, or even co-dependency, but not genuine love.
Until we truly love, accept, and appreciate ourselves exactly the way we are, we cannot embrace the love of others.
And that my friends begins when you believe…you are enough!
The “Am I Enough” Conundrum
In my line of work, I have discovered that there are a whole lot of folks out there walking around and unconsciously struggling with the question, “Am I enough?”
Whether it be in Corporate America or some other Institution, these place are filled with folks trying to prove they are enough.
These are the places are the stages where everyone can prove they are better, more committed, smarter, or more productive than the next person. And when they prove it they get rewarded financially, or with promotions, or with accolades.
You see, at the heart of that question, “am I enough”, is the question of whether or not I have self-worth and value.
So what does all this have to do with you loving yourself and being loved??
What’s Love Got To Do With It?
When you don’t believe you’re enough, you don’t believe you’re lovable. And if you don’t believe you’re lovable, when someone tells you that they “love you,” you don’t or won’t believe them!
And it doesn’t matter how many times they say it, you still don’t believe them!
Being loved begins when you believe you are enough, that you deserve love, and that you are loved, especially by yourself! So maybe you might want to ask yourself a few questions…
3 Questions To Ask Yourself
- So how would your life be different if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt, that deep down in your soul you believed that… you were enough?
- How much less stress would you have if you didn’t feel as though you had to keep proving your worth to others, the world, or more importantly…yourself?
- How would your relationships be different if you knew you were loved, exactly the way you are today with all of your blemishes, past mistakes, and not-so-great choices…just the way you are?
It all begins with love and acceptance. Love of yourself and acceptance of who you are, right in this moment, exactly where and who you are!
And that my friends will also guide you to L-O-V-E What You Do!
Maybe the Beatles had it right when they said, “All You Need is Love…”
Imagine…That!
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