A friend of mine and I were discussing the difference between forgiveness and letting go.
I shared that in order to forgive, you have to be willing to completely let go of the incident or misdeed.
She shared that there were a few things in her life that she had forgiven others for AND she wasn’t going to forget what happened.
She went on to explain that she never wanted to find herself in a similar position and wanted to make be she learned from her mistakes.
While I agree that we should learn from our mistakes, I believe that in order to fully forgive … we must fully let go!
If we don’t, we take the risk of holding a small part of ourselves hostage to an act or misstep committed by someone else.
Now might be a good time to remember that what others may have done to us is a statement about who they are and their issues … IT IS NOT ABOUT US!
So that got me thinking …
- Is there anything that someone did to you that you need to forgive? Yes this includes yourself …
- Is there any one you have forgiven and yet thinking about that person stirs up some level of anxiety, anger, fear, or uneasiness?
- If so, CAN you let it go?
- WILL you let it go … totally and completely?
- WHEN will you let it go … ?
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself and others …
You cannot control what others choose to do with the gift that you give them.
However, you can control whether you mentally decide to take it back … or not.
Oh and one last thought … every time you take it back … you give up a little bit of your freedom …
And even if it’s for a little while … why on earth would you do that?
