“A lie told often enough (can) becomes the truth.” ~Vladimir Lenin
There’s a scene from the movie City Slickers, where Mitch (played by Billy Crystal) and his two friends Phil (Daniel Stern) and Ed (played by the late Bruno Kirby) Phil’s life is a mess, he had an affair and as a result, his turmoil-filled marriage is ending. By the way he had an affair with a checkout girl at the grocery store he manages which is owned by his father-in-law. In other words, he was trapped and now has no job, no wife, and no place to live. He feels hopeless, he feels trapped!
So Mitch says to Phil, no Phil you have a clean slate, your life is a do-over, just like when we were kids and someone hits a foul ball, they’d just yell out” do-over”
A Do-Over?
At different times in our lives we may feel as though we would like a Do-Over.
You know…a get out of jail free card, a second chance, an opportunity to rewind history, to go back in time, a second time to make a first impression, etc.
Here’s the truth about Do-Overs…THEY ARE UNNECESSARY!!!!
If you find yourself feeling like you would like a Do-Over regarding a certain point or situation in your life, you just might be telling yourself a laundry list of untruths (yes…lies).
Are You Telling Yourself Lies?
Here are some of the untruths you could be telling yourself and an underlying belief that could be preventing you from moving forward and causing to to act in a certain way:
- My life is not perfect just the way it is (Something is wrong with my life; something is wrong with me).
- Everything does not happen for a reason (I don’t trust the process of life).
- I know better than the Universe, God, Buddha, Allah, Life Source, etc. as to the way things need to be (Nuff said!).
- I don’t trust (I operate from a place of fear).
- My life is not unfolding as it should ( I know better than the Divine…again).
- I am in control of circumstance outside of myself (I can control other people and their thoughts).
- I didn’t need to learn that lesson (I don’t need to learn anything from this experience).
- I am still living with regret (I am stuck in guilt or shame).
- I am holding onto the past (It’s okay to stay stuck).
- I can’t let go of it (I don’t deserve to be happy).
In the world of Coaching, we talk about reframing a situation or an idea that is causing us not to achieve the level of success or happiness we want in some area of our lives.
Many times, it is because we are stuck or trapped in a situation based on a belief we have about ourselves that is untrue.
So, in order to reframe, we need to seek the truth about ourselves or a particular situation.
Here’s 10 Truths About You and Your Life
Below is a list of 10 truths that I compiled which might help you get reframe and get unstuck so you can move forward.
- Your life IS perfect just the way it is, there is nothing wrong, bad, or defective about you or your life.
- Everything…yes everything happens for a reason, you just have to trust the process.
- You and the Divine are connected and inseparable.
- This is a friendly Universe filled with abundance and love.
- Your life is exactly as it should at this moment in time.
- You can only control your own thoughts and your own mind.
- Every challenge presents a lesson you need to learn…you just have to look for it.
- There is no reason to live with regret, it is a waste of time and energy.
- The past is the past…every time you rethink it, you relive it and bring it in to the present…CUT THAT C*** OUT!
- You deserve to be happy, if you only get one of these right…make sure it’s this one!!!
Summary
So, let me leave you with just 2 questions to ask yourself:
- Did any of the items on either list resonate with you?
- Which one(s) will you choose to stop believing or start believing?
- When will you start?
I wish you nothing but success and happiness!
Until next time…be safe and be well!
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