Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation that seems so overwhelming that we lose our way and end up drowning in a sea of fear, doubt, and confusion. In times like these … it might be helpful to simplify your thought process and boil it all down to one simple and easy question … am I happy? Answering this question should be relatively simple and it is … until we start to over-think, over-analyze, and over-complicate what should be a very simple answer … Yes I am or No I am not!
In life there are things we need to let go of … and things we need to hold onto. The key to a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life is knowing the difference and which one to do and when … hold or let go. Below is a short list of things that need to hold onto. Why? Because when you lose these 10 things … life can be pretty empty.
Having a purpose bigger than you is where it all begins … In business I believe that the key to motivating employee’s requires two things: Help them identify their unique contribution to the organization and consistently recognize them for it. Show them how they are a part of something bigger than themselves.
Effort is a good thing … unless you find yourself tying your sense of self-worth and value to it! I remember standing in the hallway of St. Francis De Sales School with my fingers crossed. I was in 2nd grade and I was hoping and praying that Sr. Miriam Therese would call my name so I could go up and claim my highly coveted prize … a small blue and white button with the word ‘EFFORT’ emblazoned across the front of it.
Do you make the choice to empower yourself? There is a saying, count it all joy, which is an interesting thought, especially if you feel like your sitting in a situation that feels like anything BUT joy. Most of us have been trained to look at what is wrong as opposed to what is right about a given situation. And a lot of this what’s wrong thinking comes from the way we were programmed along with our life experiences. Here’s what I know …
Great leaders delegate. And yet many leaders find it difficult to let go, especially when the stakes are high and something big is on the line. There are a number of reasons why leaders don’t delegate, whether it is a need to be in control, fear of letting go, micro-managing, or simply believing that no one else can do it the right way … of course the right means their way!
It’s easy to get caught up in the barrage of divisiveness that seems to be running rampant in our world. The politicians in Washington D.C. can’t seem to get pass the bipartisanism that divides us … even when the future of our country is at stake. And if you consider the magnification of this divisiveness by the media who seems hell bent on exaggerating either the US side or the THEM side, it could lead you to feel quite hopeless … if you let it.
Recently, a friend of mind and I were discussing the topic of commitment. I was sharing a situation where I felt that I needed to be ‘all in’ or not. Fence-sitting for too long can be uncomfortable. Let me add here, that at times, I have been known to analyze, scrutinize, and over-think, a situation to death … and this was one of those times!
Sometimes in the heat of an unfavorable situation we wish things were different. We wish that the circumstances unfolding in our life were unfolding in a different manner … preferably in someone else’s life. And yet how many times, after the fact, after time had passed, were you able to see the good that resulted from the situation? The very same situation you were cursing a day, a week, or a few months ago!
In the movie Good Will Hunting, Matt Damon plays a tough, wise-cracking, but emotionally scarred math genius named, Will Hunting. And although he is extremely brilliant he is working (hiding) as a night janitor at Harvard.Robin Williams play a therapist who attempts to help Will go inside of himself in order to own the truth about his abusive past and discover his authentic self.