Recently I was working with a group of leaders from a gold mining company to help them strengthen their Coaching Skills. Towards the end of the week I had an opportunity to tour the mine. My guide Jesse was navigating though the various tunnels when all of a sudden he stopped the vehicle, killed the lights, and shut-off the engine. While we sat there 2500 feet underground in complete and utter darkness … it hit me … LIKE A TON OF BRICKS!
Being a leader means that your people take their cues from you. The behaviors you exhibit are the behaviors that slowly get woven into the culture of your team. And while the saying “Do as I say … not as I do” may work with a 2 year old, it will drive your ability to lead right into the toilet. So the question becomes … what beliefs and behaviors are forming your team culture?
Do you make the choice to empower yourself? There is a saying, count it all joy, which is an interesting thought, especially if you feel like your sitting in a situation that feels like anything BUT joy. Most of us have been trained to look at what is wrong as opposed to what is right about a given situation. And a lot of this what’s wrong thinking comes from the way we were programmed along with our life experiences. Here’s what I know …
A wise mentor once told me that in order to have success, I needed the ability to repeat the processes that were creating success in my business and my life. In other words … systems for success. This was difficult as I don’t naturally think in a process and procedure way. However, after he spoke, I realized that I needed systems in my life if I wanted to achieve a higher level of success.
Sometimes it takes losing something or someone to help us gain clarity on what we value in life. One way to prevent this from happening is making sure our values are in alignment with our actions, in other words … internal and external integrity. If I asked you to make a list of the 5 things you value most in life … what would be on your list? If I asked you how much time and attention you devote to those things or people on your list … what would you say?
In 1984 the band Chicago was a leader in their industry when they released Chicago 17 which included the popular song, Hard Habit to Break. The song is a love ballad about a man who is ruminating over a failed relationship. He took her for granted and is now wishing he had her back. But as love stories sometimes go … she left.
It’s easy to get caught up in the barrage of divisiveness that seems to be running rampant in our world. The politicians in Washington D.C. can’t seem to get pass the bipartisanism that divides us … even when the future of our country is at stake. And if you consider the magnification of this divisiveness by the media who seems hell bent on exaggerating either the US side or the THEM side, it could lead you to feel quite hopeless … if you let it.
You’ve heard them … On television, in the news, at your office, your church, even your kid’s volleyball game! People complaining and blaming others for their short falls and failures. It surprises me that they actually believe their failures have nothing to do with themselves. They believe the fault lies with some – thing or some – one else. I believe the reason many people do not succeed at the level they desire is because they have blocked their path to success with self-imposed obstacles.
I was raised to “respect my elders.” I was taught that “children should be seen and not heard.” And if I did those things I would be a well-mannered, well-behaved child. Not saying it was perfect or right … just saying it is what I was taught.
Some leaders believe that because they hold a position or title, they deserve the undying loyalty of their people even when they treat others poorly. That isn’t loyalty, that’s positional leadership and it is the lowest form of leader ship. Some folks believe that because someone is “family,” they are entitled to the loyalty of…